10 Ways Being In A Long-Distance Relationship Can Be Good For You


“Distance gives us a reason to love harder.”

If you didn’t know that long-distance relationships suck, here’s a reminder. But each cloud has a silver lining and these are the silver linings despite having an ocean between you.

1. You get to know each other really well.

Research suggests that long-distance couples talk less frequently than those who live in the same city, but that their interactions tend to be deeper and more meaningful. When you’re in a long-distance relationship, you’ve only got words to build your relationship on but these words would be able to foster greater intimacy.


2. You probably won’t confuse lust with love.

Since physical intimacy is out of the picture, you will quickly realise if the attraction you feel for your partner goes deeper than the skin. And if it does, good for you!

3. You get to road test your trust.

Our overactive imagination can sometimes take a hold on us even when our partner is in the same city, what more in another country. When your partner is out and having fun, it is easy to second guess them and feel jealous. Being in a long-distance relationship forces you to recognize and confront some of these types of insecurities. It lets you practice trusting and being trustworthy.

4. You learn to communicate and resolve conflict well.

When you have nothing to do but talk with each other, you will learn how to connect and communicate on a deeper level. Misunderstandings, hurt feelings and conflicts will occur in the relationship and you will have to learn how to navigate these challenges while being apart.


5. You will truly appreciate the moments you get together.

The times that you do get to spend with each other are so few and precious that you would learn to cherish and appreciate each moment together — from something mundane such as grocery shopping to a fancy night out.

6. You make more memorable moments.

When you’re in a long-distance relationship you put more effort into making your time together special — you’re more likely to step out and stretch to make a moment memorable. The moments that you put so much thought and effort in would become vivid memories that are important and represent positive touchstones in your relationship.


7. You will become very patient.

Long-distance relationships seem custom-designed to teach patience, and patience is a powerful life skill. Patience helps you tolerate minor frustrations without getting stressed. It enables you take a long-term view of situations and problems. When you are being patient in your long-distance relationship you are not just nurturing love, you are developing your character.

8. You have more time to pursue your other interests.

use some of your extra time to do things that are fun or fulfilling—read books, work out, do something creative, spend time with other friends. Investing in other passions and relationships isn’t betraying your long-distance lover, it’s making you a more well-rounded, interesting, and happier person.

9. You develop independence.

When you’re on your own most of the time you must learn how to tackle most challenges that daily life can throw at you — from getting your car serviced to making dinner or managing finances. When times feel tough, your partner can offer emotional support but won’t be able to sweep in and fix things for you. From this, you will grow in self-sufficiency and independence.

10. You will be fully committed to the relationship.

Long distance relationships are hard work. But here’s the good thing about hard work: the things we have to work for are often the very things most worth having.


Written by Joan Chen

Psychology graduate, K-pop enthusiast and bibliophile.